Hi, guys —
I have a dear friend who is a 74-year-old widow. She plans to marry a widower who is 78 years-old and both are Catholic.
He has an adult son who is severely mentally challenged. The adult son lives with his father and will continue to, even after the dad and my friend marry. The son does not drive and works part time at a grocery store.
I feel this widower is doing a great disservice to my friend, expecting her to be the caretaker to his son; she has never expressed a desire to want to care for the son. I have a great concern for her health — mentally and physically — if she gets in this situation.
She has stated that she and her husband to be are never alone because of the son. She has also stated that the son can be quite a handful. She has dated the widower for about a year.
I am writing this, because I care very much about my friend. She is like the sister I never had.
Any advice you can give me will be appreciated.
Thank you very much.